In recent months, news stories from Hollywood have been pouring out about the rich elite sexually abusing women (and men). The likes of Harvey Weinstein, amongst others, are now being put to the sword, as they should be. Waves and waves of allegations came out, stories of gross sexual misconduct and rape where men used their power to force or pressurize young women into doing things they wished not to do, while the men faced no consequences and the women were threatened with career ruination if they spoke up. Those who knew the abuse was going on but did nothing are also being called out. It is an interesting time in Hollywood, politics and/or at least in the world of fame. We will see if there is lasting change.
One of things t has also brought about the #MeToo hashtag, which raises awareness of sexual harrassment for everyday people, although it seems more connected to women and a feminist movement. It has become a worldwide platform for women to talk openly about harrassment they’ve experienced. On the whole, it has been positive. It has seen men question themselves and their behaviour, and it promotes the safety of women. I think most men would agree. Correct me if I’m wrong.
However, it also feels that the #MeToo campaign has been losing its way to an extent, and becoming too broad. Why do I say that? As mentioned, it is great that it empowers women, although reading some comments and views from both sides shows a polemic divide between the sexes. As a male, although not an alpha male, the attacks launched by certain feminist groups about men come across very general and seem aimed at the gender as a whole, while certain alpha male (or red pill) groups claim women are playing victim. Neither side are really helping the chief aim of the movement which is raise awareness and improve the security from sexual predators.
I have been brought up to respect women. In fact, I’ve got great female mates who I admire and I have a laugh with. I’ve never been one to exhibit force, pressurize or trick women into bed. This is why, and I feel I’m not the only man saying this, the abuses in Hollywood feel alien to me, and I don’t tend to gravitate or know men who womenize, let alone abuse women. I don’t turn a blind eye to it, but I’m never really around to do something about it when it happens. Therefore, when attacks are made plural and aimed at all men, it feels like the message is being somewhat lost.
As stated, it has many men questioning their behaviour, but also how they approach women, especially in the Western world. It seems an outstretched arm, a touch on the back or leg, whatever, which makes dating for single men quite confusing. Does he need to ask for permission before he snogs a girl on the dance floor? I have many touchy feely female friends who are fine with being touched or hugged. Will this have men questioning their every motive when in fact a woman might like the man before her to embrace her, kiss her or have her swept off her feet? What’s inappropriate? Where’s the line?
No man, especially those with innocent intentions, wants to be accused of making inappropriate advances on women. Although many unsure men might need a guide written out for them.
What do you think? Has the #MeToo movement lost direction? Is it serving its purpose, or am I just a moaning macho? Is masculinity having an identity crisis?
Feel free to add your comments below, whichever side you’re on.