Dear readers,
Finished. Quite a page-turner. And yes, I enjoyed it. I’ve never read a self-help book so fast. It’s a much easier read than the majority in the genre. It might not be the best, but it is the most original I’ve read in a long time.
As stated in part one, it’s written in a matter of fact tone, but in a chummy way, which makes the content a little bit more accessible than others. I’m OK, You’re OK, for example (I know it’s not a great comparison, as they’re from different periods and marketed to different audiences). It’s simplistic, but that’s the genius of it, as he is presenting quite deep ideas which just about anyone can grasp. Mark Manson isn’t the world’s best wordsmith, but he has communicated his thoughts and advice in a way which captures his readers’ imaginations; largely millennials who have a short attention span and are easily bored, but also disillusioned with life and need a blast of realism to get them going. You find yourself agreeing with Manson on many things, how he interprets life and how modern culture doesn’t help or motivate us in the right way, such as believing we are all entitled, chasing success, feeling good all the time, being pleasant and nice all the time, and impressing people.
I liked the idea of Disappointment Panda, telling ourselves truths that help us in the long-run, looking at our behaviour, viewing suffering as a form of education where positive change often blossoms, the deteriment of procrastination on goals we’re not committed enough to achieve, pealing away our layers to understand what our true values are, and maybe adopting new ones that are reality-based, socially constructive, immediate and controllable, in place of those that are unrealistic, self-absorbed and self-destructive.
I also like his thoughts on accepting responsibility for things that happen in our lives, regardless if it’s our fault or not, and how fixing our problems leads to happiness, confidence and empowerment, rather than avoiding them. Our problems are endless, after all, and often follow us. I like the idea of changing bad problems for better problems, as we go about solving our issues, which often change as we change throughout life. Also, if we want to improve an area of our life, for example trust in our relationships, rejecting behaviour which don’t achieve that goal i.e. don’t lie and don’t be irresponsible.
Another point I like is behaving the opposite to how everyone you know expects from you. However, I feel it should be expanded on, and state it should be within reason, especially where employment is concerned. But for the most part, if you don’t like the way the world views you, take action. If don’t like how people view you as a clown, act seriously. If you’re too agreeable, be disagreeable. People won’t like it and and it’ll take time for them to adjust, but that’s their problem.
Of course, some of these are obvious, not always realistic and a bit general. He also expresses his views through some self-indulgent storytelling about himself. Then again, write about what you know. That’s one of the number one rule for writers.
Another criticism is regarding some of the language used. It’s irritating. Not the swearing, but patronizing phrases such as “maturity (maybe you should try it some time)”. Yes, I get it; it’s with a sense of humour, sarcasm, written with attitude etc. However, from a writer’s perspective, it’s word redundancy. Unnecessary. Litter.
These are arbitrary points though. I am impacted and inspired by the book, which is rare for me with self-improvement books. I’ll remember it well.
I give this book 4.5/5.